A wedding in July 2024. Lovely. It’s THE wedding of 2024. Our youngest son is getting married to his Swedish fiance in Stockholm.
When we got married, over 40 years ago, our parents had a BIG say in the date, the event, the guest list, the cost.
Things seem to have changed somewhat. The couple are doing all the organisation. We have not seen a guest list but we have been invited. Phew, that’s a relief!
Difficulties: –
1. What happens at a Swedish wedding that doesn’t happen in the UK? It’s at the end of July, so should be warm(ish).
2. The venue seems to be on the edge of decking over the archipelago. One false move and you’re in! Bit of a nightmare if it rains!
3. It’s non religious. Do we get to do any singing at all? My brother (a retired cleric) would need to” say what he would normally and would definitely want to say “… in th sight of God …”
4. There are a small number of rooms at the venue so only a handful of guests will be staying there the night before and night after the wedding. I think nearly everyone speaks English so that’s a help. I don’t think my poor language skills will allow me to learn helpful Swedish phrases in 3 months.
5. Packing. I am not not a good packer, especially without a car. Going to another country by plane means you can’t just throw something in the suitcase (just in case I need it). The Swedes seem to dress pretty casually but jeans will be a no-no.
6. Solution – hopefully. I’ve booked myself in for a colour, style and make-up consultation. My colour choices since attending a Colour Me Beautiful class in 1983 has meant my “clear and bright” choices for a “Spring” has stood me in pretty good stead. Style. Hopeless. I gave up wearing suits, then dresses for work years ago. I like some of the dresses I still own (some 15 years old and have worn well) but what to wear on one’s feet usually sends me back to trousers and Skechers. Dress length also plays a part. Having legs the shape of those on a grand piano means they are nice and curvy but anything more than a couple of inches below the knee, make look as if I’ve been hammered into the ground. That’s the problem when you’re short and curvy not tall and slim.
Also, at nearing 70, I look like my mother – without the cigarette in its holder – and not as stooped. I would like to look like the groom’s mother, not his grandmother!
7. My future daughter-in-law has kindly asked me to go with her when she tries on wedding dresses in London – her mother is in Sweden. I’m hoping my own style consultation will allow me some insight into what would be good for her. She’s not tall, but she’s very slim. Actually, she’ll probably look good in anything and my son adores her, so he’ll love her whatever she is wearing. (I just hope white trainers are not what brides are wearing with wedding dresses this year!)
When I was considerably younger, there was a fashion shop down the road from my parents’ pharmacy. There were less chain stores in the early 70’s. One shop assistant, who I assume was very good at her job, used to let the customers know in no uncertain terms if the dress they were trying on was good for them or not! Hilarious, when you think of it but maybe that’s what we all need. Someone being honest – maybe in not such a brutal way as the assistant but diplomatically. I’m hoping my style guru will be like that. I’m looking forward to ditching some of the wardrobe disasters (or just not good). I shall update this post following the session.
















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